Do you give the same advice you have been given because it sounds wise?

Have you seen this play out either in your own life or with others?

I see this happen in many of the Facebook groups I’m in. I sometimes challenge people’s advice asking them how it worked for them. This is usually because I know from personal experience, what they are offering does not work!

They come back with “I’m not going to get into an argument with you” or “yes I have seen improvement’s so I am I hopeful”

Improvements are good but it means either more needs to be done or they need to do it better for the intended results. 

So, it hasn’t worked for them as yet…so why are they giving this advice then?

Filtering advice

When listening to advice check first how that person came to give that advice. What is their experience?

Who do they listen to?

It’s not often the first thing we try actually works for us, often we need to try a few things before we find the answer that’s right for us.

Finding people who are already doing what you want to do and are where you want to get to, is the best and quickest way to reach your goals.

Reach out until you find who someone who is willing to give you their time and attention. 

When they see you’re sincere in appreciating them, they might just reach out their hand back to you and offer advice or encouragement. They might even be willing to share with you a few secrets that could help you with your next steps!

So how do we do this?

This is what I have done and still do:

First, you need to inspire yourself to want to go forward. It takes courage to step out of what is comfortable and do something different.

You need to be willing to be brave as not everything you try will work! But when you do find that courage to keep trying, that’s when what you do will flow through to others and inspire them on their own journey!

Secondly, you need to be willing to let go of the old … to be free to embrace the new. Old patterns of thinking, old attitudes, new ways of relating to others, using a better language not just with words but with our bodies too.

Better health, better meals, planning for good to happen instead of expecting the worst.

Thirdly, you need to listen to advice from those who have the authority, not from people who confidently talk like they have all authority. I am responsible for the advice I take, it’s me who suffers. So, I have learned to choose whom I give my time and attention.

Heads of corporations and governments have advisors they speak with before making any big decision. These advisors are intelligent wise people who have been hand -picked for their experience and knowledge.

How it can play out in your life

We may not be that high up but the same principle applies, we also need to seek out people we trust to bounce our ideas off.

Decision making is part of our journey to get to our destination. We won’t always get it right but that’s ok, it’s all part of life’s adventure! 

So keep your head up and press forward to create the life you love. Then you will have so much personal experience that you will be able to help others on their journey!